The Higher Desire Wife
Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives
About
A husband always wants more sex than his wife, right? Many marriage resources make that assumption, but up to 25 percent of marriages have a higher desire wife! While these women are not alone, they may feel that way as standard sex advice doesn't address their needs. They may even feel like there is something wrong with them or they should be ashamed of their high sex drive.
Author and speaker J. Parker has been there. In The Higher Desire Wife, she pairs extensive research and personal stories to help the higher desire wife nurture healthy and holy intimacy in her marriage. In these frank and compassionate pages, you'll learn how to
· understand potential causes of your husband's lower sex drive
· approach the topic with him in a loving and effective way
· find solutions and compromises to close the desire gap
God designed marriage to fulfill both husband and wife. J. Parker comes alongside you as a trusted friend to help you understand that you're normal, you're not alone, and things can get better.
Endorsements
"If you are a wife who has believed you are alone in wanting more sex with your spouse, this well-researched and biblically based book will be a practical, encouraging breath of fresh air. J. shares practical steps to help higher desire wives work through their sexual desire differences with their spouse and catalyze mutual, positive change. Just as much as the content, though, I appreciate her grace-laced approach to a touchy subject. Let this book encourage and equip you, and give you hope."
Shaunti Feldhahn, social researcher and bestselling author of For Women Only and Secrets of Sex and Marriage
"As a Christian counselor, I wholeheartedly endorse this transformative book by J. Parker. She skillfully addresses a crucial yet seldom-discussed topic, shedding light on the experiences of higher desire wives. Through her wisdom and personal insights, J. reveals the underlying issues behind mismatched sex drives and reassures readers that they are valuable, beautiful, and not alone. Most importantly, she offers hope through faith, reminding us that with God, all things are possible."
Kim Kimberling, PhD, CEO, Awesome Marriage
"This is a very needed and welcome book. As a Christian sex therapist, I work with many couples where the wife is the higher desire spouse and there are very few resources for her. I love J.'s humor in delivering hopeful and helpful information about such a sensitive topic. Thank you, J., for your honest, authentic, and researched approach. I look forward to owning a copy and recommending this to many wives."
Deborah M. Wade, MA, LPC, LMFT, CST, CSAT, Christian sex therapist at ACTSolutions at The Gathering Place
"Finally, a book that speaks right into the heart of every Christian wife who loves sex and wants more of it with the man she married. If that's you, you won't regret digging into this book. Invest in yourself and your marriage with J. Parker's life-changing insights. You're worth it."
Julie Sibert, Christian author and advocate for healthy sex in marriage, IntimacyInMarriage.com
"We live in a sex-saturated culture where couples are having far less sex. This pattern is having significant consequences on the health of the connection between husbands and wives. In The Higher Desire Wife, J. Parker speaks to an often overlooked aspect of this sexual divide. With practical advice and biblical encouragement, J. helps wives know they are not alone. This book will not only encourage you but also point you in a direction toward better intimacy."
Kevin A. Thompson, author of Friends, Partners & Lovers
"I hear from many wives who desire more sex and wonder why their husband is not engaging more sexually. J. Parker's encouraging words help such a wife understand what issues may be underlying the sexual disconnect in her marriage, take ownership for what she can do, and engage in constructive conversations and actions to maximize the intimacy she is longing for while caring for both her heart and her marriage. Practical and uplifting."
Carol Tanksley, MD, DMin, author of Sexpectations: Reframing Your Good and Not-So-Good Stories about God, Love, and Relationships
"J. Parker has written a cutting-edge primer in the field of healthy sexuality. There are not enough resources for the wife who has a high desire to be sexual with her husband! Thank you, J., for providing this thorough look at all aspects of a marriage with a higher desire wife. You provide hope and healing to a neglected population."
Bonny Logsdon Burns, APSATS-CPC, ADOH, ACC, restoration coach, author, and speaker, StrongWives.com
"J. finally addresses the one nagging question we hear all the time from higher drive women: 'What's wrong with me?' With the patience and understanding of a woman who's been there, her clear answers are the sighs of relief that women around the world need to hear."
Brad and Kate Aldrich, Aldrich Ministries Coaching Network
The Author
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J. Parker
J. Parker has been blogging at Hot, Holy & Humorous for nearly fifteen years and has written five books on sexual intimacy in marriage, including Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design. She holds a master's degree in...
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